Wow, its like break up season again or something. A few friends I know have unfortunately come across the inevitable situation, for those of you who are lucky enough to not have had your heart broken, I give you my best wishes, but to those of you who have, I like to offer you.... juny top 5 tips to get over it and move on.

 

1. Call someone - there's no better way to get those horrible feelings out then to call someone. I know it might be hard sometimes to call someone and start pouring your heart and soul out. But I think one of the most important things of letting that sorrow out, is to literally let it out to someone, somewhere, it could be a penpal through email, long lost high school friend, some random off the street and obviously your closest friends who are always willing to listen. You will be surprise how compassionate people are to listening to you problems, because they may remember once that they were in the same position and really needed someone to listen to.

 

2. Work - arrrr what better way to keep you mind off things then to work, why not make the most of it and commit your time and effort to things that will advance your career, grow your wealth rather then moping around about the lost. I once had a friend that mope (you know who you are), I'm a true believer that things will get better in time, but in the mean time why not make the most of it and transfer the bad into good for something else.

 

3. Go out and do things - yes it sounds a lot easier than done, but hey you have to do it. Do the things that you always wanted to do but never got the chance. Your life is changing you must take the chance and go out there. Obviously you are not going to meet you next mr/mrs perfect by sitting at home. Go out, not necessary clubbing never really find these places attractive anyway. But why not try the firned that you promise you would always see, but never did, hey maybe the museum, a new sport, when your out there's a much more higher probability that you meet people, the right people. I always believe the most interesting people, all the best friends you are ever going to make might be sitting right next to you on the bus/train. They may not lead to anything special, but hey all you need is a good laugh and some fun right, there are so many amazing people out there, go out and meet them.

 

4. Self confidence - wow the things start to get harder as it goes down the list hey. This one is kinda of important, obviously your heart has been broken, something went wrong, someone left you for whatever reason and you definitely feel a little down and a little ugly or useless. I don't know how to say this and i don't know how effective this would be over a blog. But look at yourself in the mirror and trust me this is very very important, you are beautiful no matter what someone says or do, you are amazing. Alright its not really working, but what i'm trying to say there is many people out there for everyone, and just because someone has left you for someone. something else doesn't mean your not good enough, its there lost. There's many many people who will apppreciate you just the way you are, i truly truly believe there's someone out there for everyone, you just need to realise that, it might take time but there is.

 

5. Grieve - alright, cry, cry ,cry ....... recently asked Mr. Hottie and even he cries, so there you go, everyone cries but do it as many times as it requires, until your tears dry and up and pick up the pieces in your life and starting building it again. for some its a few hours, some its a few days, take as long as you need, heal, however long it takes but never give up, because its really true that time really heals the pain.

 

And to wrap it up, a once amazing stranger once said to me, the most important thing in life is to find someone that is your equal, someone that treats you with equal respect, equal trust and equal love, that someone/someones is out there, so pick up the pieces of your heart and sleep, because tomorrow is a much much brighter day.

 

love,

juny